Let’s talk about cheating

Seriously – what is up with our generation and cheating? Or is it just me noticing it more and more these days? This topic has been getting at me so often these past weeks it scares me. So I thought why not discuss and ask for your opinions. Where does it start? What do you do when you’re being cheated on? Why does one even cheat?

First things first: I want to share a somewhat, to me, shocking story about what a guy has shared with me a while ago. I will not be calling out names here – no worries. So this young man is married, has a child, is pretty intelligent and not so bad looking. I met him a couple of years ago at an event and always got along with him amazingly. Still do. Still really like him – but it just puts certain thoughts in a different perspective. Without going into any details, he made it pretty clear that him and his wife are in an “open relationship”. Now here it starts for me already: how can you be living with your significant other, have a family together, and be in an open relationship and “not care” if one of you swings around? I still wonder whether that was just a catchy phrase, a straight out lie in my face or whether the woman actually has no idea. Repeating myself, I am still cool with the guy – but damn that is just so unsexy to me I can’t even.

Now where does cheating even begin? I’ve had endless conversations with my girlfriends and some guys about this. You know the typical situation when a guy and girl are getting to know each other, it gets pretty serious (meaning really seeing each other regularly and both giving the feeling that there is something serious in the making), and then out of nowhere my girlfriend tells me she heard from someone in the circle that this guy has been making out with some other chick on a night out. Do you consider that cheating? I’ve heard rather often that it puts you in basically pretty shit situation because obviously you’re not official yet and so you can’t really say anything to him or officially be mad at him. My opinion? Bullshit. If a guy decides to date me, get to know me, start “seeing me” (name it whatever you want) – even in that phase I would consider making-out with someone cheating on me already. It’s simple. You cheat, I leave.

What would I do? If I hear about it, I will ask you. Communication is key – in every relationship there is. Now, if you feel that he has cheated and you don’t ask him, then don’t complain about your trust issues. The only one that is really not doing anything against it and allowing it, is you. You need to set the boundaries just like guys set their boundaries. If you allow it and let it go through, be sure it was not the last time. Now, if you decide that this is okay for you – cool. Be you. Do you. Just don’t complain afterwards if it isn’t working the way you had wished for initially. Same thing goes for you if you are cheating. Man up. Woman, grow up. You need to communicate that you have an issue with the current situation or that you are just not looking for a relationship (or that the relationship just isn’t working anymore). It just isn’t fair and you surely would not want to be in the same shoe. If you decide to cheat, I truthfully believe you are not looking for, or ready for, a serious relationship. At least be honest with your partner – it’s the least you can do.

Then I wonder why people even start to cheat? This is another debatable topic. Some say they can’t do anything against it. It’s a drive. An animalistic drive. Other’s think it’s an age thing. My opinion? Again: bullshit. I honestly believe that one is just not mature, not ready for commitment. But why then even get into one? Is it the Sunday-Blues? The typical “oh I was busy the whole week, partying up on Friday and Saturday and then Sunday I felt lonely so I called up that chick and asked her on a date”? I remember Lauryn and Michael (from theskinnyconfidential.com) talking about it on one of their podcasts last year and giving exactly this example (though I can’t remember the exact wording) and them likewise arguing that this is total BS. Like Lauryn said, and I swear ever since I fully agree, never ever say yes to a guy asking you out on a Sunday if he hasn’t been speaking to you in a while before (and definitely not if it’s your ex!).

Now, what are your thoughts on this? I’d be interested so just leave me a comment down below on this post, comment on one my last photo on Instagram (laurananette) or even snapchat (laura.nanette) me directly. Would LOVE to hear your voice and even share opinions in a potential follow-up post if wished for. xo

from up above

Finally back in Switzerland, Zurich, and finally back home. As much as I love traveling, there is no feeling that can beat coming home. Yet, I love traveling, exploring, seeking adventures and discovering what nature has to offer for us. It doesn’t matter how often I jump on a plane, I still cannot get enough of the breathtaking views one gets when flying over the alps leaving Switzerland, flying over the ocean or desert when flying into other exotic places. I just finished my business travels to Las Vegas (with a pit stop in San Francisco) last week, and then jumped on another plane the next day to fly out to Alicante. There, I met my grandmother, relaxed a little bit over the weekend and enjoyed the beach.

With so many bloggers nowadays using special drones to take bird-view photos, I obviously needed one, too. It’s a toy, I admit it – but I love it. I really don’t need it, given that this does not finance my life, but it is so much fun to not only explore nature whilst walking around or diving in the sea, but suddenly being able to see what usually only birds see daily. This perspective opens a whole other layer of creativity one can work with and, personally, makes me respect the nature around us just so much more.

The DJI Mavic Pro not only allows you take photos of the views you see on your iPhone, but likewise let’s you shoot videos. I personally love it, though do admit that it needs some practice on my side. I almost completely crashed and destroyed it on my first flight – jup, only happens to me – but managed to fix it and thankfully did not destroy the camera. I’m slowly getting better, though hope to improve my skills further in the upcoming weeks. What are your thoughts, experiences with drones (if any) and favorites? Also, can anyone recommend a good program or app to work on the video – one that is not overly-technical and complicated? xo

ps. I have had some great news come at me the past days, which I am hoping to reconfirm and then share with you guys in the upcoming 2-3 months. Can’t wait to tell you more!

Taco Night & my week ahead

Finally, it was time for taco night! You guys have no clue how much I’ve been craving to eat some these past weeks. With all the traveling, being busy, going out for dinners and lunches almost daily, though – I’ve just not had the time to make these little pieces of deliciousness until this past weekend. Let me tell you, I fully indulged in these and do not regret a single thing. If you’re interested, I am happy to share the recipe with you – just drop me a line or PM.

My weekend in general was one I cannot complain about at all. I’ve taken time off completely – no studying, no writing, no nothing (except for some obvious house cleaning). The weather has been great – almost too hot (always need to complain, I know:). I’ve been at the lake, even in the lake (rare one for me), went for some longer rides with my bike, had friends nights, date nights, went for dinners, saw my closest friends, tanned (or at least tried to), and enjoyed my favorite wines (yep, can’t do without a glass here and there).

Now that the Monday has found it’s way into our lives again, or at least mine, it’s time to start planning again for the week. I’m off to London tomorrow – staying until Wednesday evening. It’s a packed trip with meetings all day long. I might have some free time tomorrow; and am hoping to spend that with my parents (landed in London this morning from Miami). Wednesday we fly back to Zurich together, get to spend a little time together on Thursday, and Friday I am off to Liechtenstein for the day (meetings). Basically, my week is rather crowded again. Yet, it’s just the way I like it: busy, not too stressful though, surely not boring. The upcoming weeks will mean a lot of traveling, again. Especially June, I will be off to Las Vegas (for a few days; business), followed by a short trip to Spain (seeing my granny). And after that I’ve got some personal stuff going on. Then, June is already over. Time flies. It really does. Let’s see how I can keep up with everything – I’ll try to take you with me! xo

Tate Modern, London

Oh London, you always do surprise me a little bit more with every time I visit you. As a few of you might have seen on Snapchat and Instagram, I am currently back in the city of (what I like to name it) business. That is, I usually only come here for meetings; fly in early and back out late. This time, however, due to meetings on Friday and tomorrow, Monday, I was able to stay over the weekend and explore London just a little bit more than usually. I loved it thus far. I’ve been walking around for kilometers every day, from the St Paul’s Cathedral (opposite my hotel) to the famous Palace, across several bridges – and of course, to the Tate Modern.

I don’t go often to museums. In fact, I barely go at all. Another fact: I don’t go often enough. Having visited the Tate Modern today for a couple of hours really reminded me how much I love looking at art. It is inspiring, intimidating and really makes you think twice. Then there is art I simply don’t understand – but that is another topic to discuss. Seriously though, I don’t understand some of this stuff. But hey, it’s art, and who am I to judge, right?

I wanted to share some of my favorite pieces with you. Generally, I love art that is a little provocative to the mind. Be it discussing or demonstrating certain historic events or political happenings, or simply making us re-think certain daily routines or objects we use. I also love photography that is .. a little edgy? Perhaps that is not the best word to use, but I wouldn’t know how to better describe it. I love photography that displays the not-so-perfect scenes. I love photography that makes you think, that gives the viewer new perspectives, that shows the un-perfect of the world, the truths we often close our eyes towards, and contrasts we often overlook.

Also, I went to the London Symphony Orchestra (LSO) Open-Air today. It. was. brilliant. I love classical music in general – and this experience, seeing it live on the streets, was breath-taking. It likewise reminded me I don’t go to concerts enough (especially orchestra ones. And actually, I have never been). So hey, another to-do that I want to add to my list. One more to remind me to enjoy life and simply „let go“ from time to time. Life is so short. We should enjoy it to the fullest and damn it yes, do what we want to do and what makes us happy.

Barthélémy Toguo, 1967, „Purification 2012“

One of my favorites; btw.
Andrea Bowers, 1965, „The Worker’s Maypole, An Offering for May Day 1894“

Loved the idea behind these pieces and the thought-provoking part of it. Seriously, why are we in the 21st century and women are still not seen as equal to men in so, so (!) many places of the world. This must change.

Also, I know I’ve been MIA these past view weeks. I will change it – just give me a little more time (I am almost done with my Masters! yay.) xo

Getting a puppy – decisions, decisions

Those who know me or follow me on snapchat or instagram know that I am a huge dog lover. And most of all, I love my little monkey. Of course her name is not monkey and she is far from it, yet, her humorous character reminds me of one and yes – I have endless love for her. Unfortunately, I only see her every couple of weeks due to her staying in Malta with the rest of my family. She was just here in Zurich with my mother for a full 4 weeks – damn, did I enjoy her company and squeaky little noises in the morning after waking up. Suddenly, when she’s gone from one day to another I feel that „empty“ feeling again. Ok, those that don’t own a dog (or pet) and never have will probably think I’m crazy – no worries, I agree I probably am to some extent. Those that have a dog know that it becomes a family member, a baby to the family and one that cannot be left alone for too long hours.

I’ve told you previously that the past weeks were quite a bit rough on the emotional side for me and in general, my job and all other things I’m always trying to place under one umbrella are a bit overwhelming at times. But no matter how long my day was or how stressful it might have seemed in that moment, all stress fell off of me as soon as I saw my dog and went for a walk with her. A simple 30 minutes walking back from the office to the apartment gave me so much strength; its incredible. Especially in these times, more than any other time, I noticed I am a dog-person for sure – for life. So it’s no surprise I’ve been talking to breeders over and over again in the past year and finally found one in Switzerland that I believe I can trust and that seemed overly kind. I had the chance to getting a puppy of my own (same breed; italian greyhound) and fell in love as soon as I saw the 3 week old pup on photos. Whilst everyone thought I would go for it finally and whilst I was even telling myself I would; I sadly declined the offer in the end. This has nothing to do with the breeder or the dog whatsoever – and I am so grateful for the fact that the breeder wants to contact me again next year. Yet, I want to see how this year continues a bit first before making such a big decision in my life.

Dogs, as any pet, require a lot of attention, care, time, and love. Perhaps a goldfish isn’t as hard, and even a cat may be easier given the fact that it can stay at home whilst at work for hours in a row. Whilst a dog may be able to stay at home too, and surely has to learn to stay alone for a few hours a day just in case, I believe it’s not the healthiest option of all. The dog needs a lot of training, especially in the first 18 months of its life – one must put a lot of care and love into the training and continue giving this attention to the dog for the rest of it’s life (easily 12-15 years for some). That is why, I declined the offer for this year. I am aware of the duties a dog brings with it, I am aware that traveling on a spontaneous note is less easy and that going out after work and leaving the dog at home for hours after hours cannot be done anymore. I am aware of the consequences – yet, I am a dog lover. The reason for this decline was simply the fact that I want to finish my studies first, see how the business is moving over the next couple of months, and get a few of my personal projects moving and finishing up a few others. I will also use the time and try to travel more on a personal note this year and see, whether I actually do and whether a dog is still ok to have or whether it’s a decision to rather push back for another while.

Why I wrote this post? Well, simply because I like sharing my thoughts – because I love and miss my little monkey. But also, because so many girls (or so the instagram trend seems to show it) are currently getting a dog. Small little hand-bag dogs, travel dogs, pugs and other small breeds are all over the social media networks right now. And as much as I love the idea and as much as I am for getting a dog and giving one a new home with lots of love – one must remember the fact that it is an animal with great needs and attention. I sometimes wonder how some of these people make it all work – with a job, constant (it seems) traveling, going out to clubs, parties, events, dinners, brunches, meetings with friends, and whatnot. If the dog can travel with you and join almost everywhere – that is fantastic. If you have family and friends around you that will surely keep an eye on the beloved little family-member when you are away and can’t take the dog with you – great, be so thankful! But often times I see stories (on snapchat or instagram) that show certain people with dogs, getting all ready, and then leaving the dog alone once more when they go out for whatever reason. It makes me sad when thinking that is surely isn’t the first time, the last time and potentially is the most routine task for the dog: waiting for the owner to finally come back home. So this is also a post to remind everyone that is thinking of getting a dog: it’s a wonderful idea – but make sure you have back-up plans when you don’t have the necessary time. If your love for dogs is that great, remember to put the dog first and don’t get one until you are 200% sure that you will be able to give the love, affection and attention it needs.